The "I just want to be friends" type...

It is perfectly clear and obvious that people are in need of love and intimacy. But with those of us who are women, it is like a necessity. We tend to get comfortable and fall for the guy who doesn't want a relationship but wants the friends with benefits deal. We are better than this so why do we just do it like its okay? Why do we keep lowering our standards and lowering ourselves for guys that really do not want us for the true reasons we should be desired. Then we catch feelings and pretend like we don't have them. We need to stop falling for these "BOYS" that really only want a beneficial friendship. We need to realize we are worth more than our bodies and our company. We need to realize that we need to spend time with the "MAN" that loves us, and wants us for us, not the guy who just wants us there to please him temporarily. We always say its so hard to find a man like that, but are we the ones looking or are we waiting to be found. The bible says, "He who finds a wife finds a good thing". So are we being patient and letting the good guy that God created for us find us, or are we just hanging around these thugs, drug dealers, wanna-be successful country bums that dream of doing something with their lives but don't even have a plan?
When you know that you don't want a relationship then that's one thing, but the moment your feelings start to change, it may be time to go out and mingle and meet people. Don't limit yourself to something that you know can be better. If he calls you and tells you he doesn't want a relationship and he makes it perfectly clear that he doesn't want a relationship, then you must know there is a problem because obviously there is some lack of communication and he can probably sense the attachment that you are getting to him. I like to call these types the "I just want to be friends" type. It doesn't matter if you two were talking for two years and after that you catch feelings, if he says he doesn't want it. He doesn't want it.
These are the types of guys we as women really need to watch out for because if they don't have to be your man to get the benefits, then they aren't going to want to. And if you make it so they do, if they don't want a relationship they will move on to the next and best believe it will give u less stress because you would have saved yourself from pointless ridiculous stress and heartache.
I am starting to see that men are actually pretty simple. It is us women that sometimes tend to complicate things by misinterpreting words or phrases that guys may use. What they say is pretty much what they mean, but with us, what we say isn't really what we mean but something that must be decoded because everything that we do is based solely on our emotions at that moment and most of the time we are thinking of the other persons feelings. Men don't run off the same things women do. They say it, that's what they mean. Most of the time they will stick with it too, so don't get attached to a dead beat garbage type that is not worth your time. Go out and be seen and hopefully one day that God-fearing man that God created for you will find you and you two can live happily ever after.