F*** Buddies vs. Friends w/ Benefits vs. Relationships...They Differ

Sometimes girls tend to get close to these guys and may occasionally get closer to them than they should. Both people may like each other but in some cases, well...most cases, none of those things will turn into relationships. Guys these days tend to not think about getting too serious until they get into their mid 20s or later. There may be an occasional nigga every now and then but the majority just want to hit. Why bother getting into a relationship when you can get your cookies, milk, cake, and ice cream outside of one?
Some girls have F*** buddies, some niggas only want that F*** buddy type of deal, but the way a person handles that can affect the way they may see the other person. For example a F*** buddy is just that; no serious conversations, no chilling, no hanging out, no talking on the phone, no cooking...all of those types of things are things that you need to STAY AWAY FROM when with a F*** buddy. It is what it is, a F*** buddy. That means someone calls, Y'all F*** and someone leaves. There is no, or should not be any type of extra cuddling. No feelings need to be involved. Think of a the person as your free sex toy that you can rent or check out like a library book...of course you don't get to keep it as long. You just use it and move on with your life.
Now this is usually the area people get confused on what they are. This is the moment people catch feelings when they really shouldn't. Dome call this Friends with Benefits. FWBs are people you are cool with. You have fun with them, you chill with them EVERY NOW AND THEN...NOT EVERYDAY. If you don't buy your regular friends anything, you don't buy this person anything unless you just want to out of the goodness of your heart.
A FWB is a friend that you care about and basically F*** from time to time...no title, no ties, no nothing. They can talk to others just like you can talk to others. The right to get jealous is not there. The hard part is how do you give yourself to someone and not catch feelings when you obviously already care about them. Since you all are already doing what couples do, you might as well try to make it more right? WRONG!!! Being Friends with Benefits with someone is a GOOD way to lose a friend. If you decide to go there with someone make sure you guard your heart and keep your distance. Know that you are not the only one in the picture. Don't try to spend more than a few days a month with them. Everyday is when you are being labeled "pushy" and the person will think you want a relationship. Whether you do or not is irrelevant, its only what they want, especially when its a man with their mind made up. You cant change someone's mind or dreams to match up with your expectations of what you want.
Which brings me to my next thing...Relationships. A relationship is the only time that you really have to right to be around someone all the time, to be jealous, to even have some say so in their life period. Its the only time you can really call someone and really give a care about whats going on in their life. Its the only time you can even consider going on a date. This is also the time that it is okay to treat your significant other, whether temporary or not. And of course it's when you are in a relationship that you can actually have sex as much and as freely as you want and pending religion when you want.
But maybe since I have broken down the different types of relationships outside of friendship, people can be less confused on things that maybe going on in their lives. Now you know what you probably shouldn't do when "talking" to someone. And most definitely make sure you and the person you are messing with talk about your intentions with each other. If your feelings start to change you might need to have another talk because the last thing you want is to get hurt because you got the wrong idea or because you got attached and they still don't give a damn. But you know what, some people don't learn without experiencing the situation. So my best advice is to be smart, WRAP IT UP, don't get attached and most definitely guard your heart.

The "I just want to be friends" type...

It is perfectly clear and obvious that people are in need of love and intimacy. But with those of us who are women, it is like a necessity. We tend to get comfortable and fall for the guy who doesn't want a relationship but wants the friends with benefits deal. We are better than this so why do we just do it like its okay? Why do we keep lowering our standards and lowering ourselves for guys that really do not want us for the true reasons we should be desired. Then we catch feelings and pretend like we don't have them. We need to stop falling for these "BOYS" that really only want a beneficial friendship. We need to realize we are worth more than our bodies and our company. We need to realize that we need to spend time with the "MAN" that loves us, and wants us for us, not the guy who just wants us there to please him temporarily. We always say its so hard to find a man like that, but are we the ones looking or are we waiting to be found. The bible says, "He who finds a wife finds a good thing". So are we being patient and letting the good guy that God created for us find us, or are we just hanging around these thugs, drug dealers, wanna-be successful country bums that dream of doing something with their lives but don't even have a plan?
When you know that you don't want a relationship then that's one thing, but the moment your feelings start to change, it may be time to go out and mingle and meet people. Don't limit yourself to something that you know can be better. If he calls you and tells you he doesn't want a relationship and he makes it perfectly clear that he doesn't want a relationship, then you must know there is a problem because obviously there is some lack of communication and he can probably sense the attachment that you are getting to him. I like to call these types the "I just want to be friends" type. It doesn't matter if you two were talking for two years and after that you catch feelings, if he says he doesn't want it. He doesn't want it.
These are the types of guys we as women really need to watch out for because if they don't have to be your man to get the benefits, then they aren't going to want to. And if you make it so they do, if they don't want a relationship they will move on to the next and best believe it will give u less stress because you would have saved yourself from pointless ridiculous stress and heartache.
I am starting to see that men are actually pretty simple. It is us women that sometimes tend to complicate things by misinterpreting words or phrases that guys may use. What they say is pretty much what they mean, but with us, what we say isn't really what we mean but something that must be decoded because everything that we do is based solely on our emotions at that moment and most of the time we are thinking of the other persons feelings. Men don't run off the same things women do. They say it, that's what they mean. Most of the time they will stick with it too, so don't get attached to a dead beat garbage type that is not worth your time. Go out and be seen and hopefully one day that God-fearing man that God created for you will find you and you two can live happily ever after.