Sometimes things happen that we don't expect. Sometimes those things hurt like hell. The thing that we don't realize is these things that happen might possibly be a part of God's great plan for our lives. Maybe we were being stubborn and trying to control our own destiny. So what if it doesn't work out, there are better things in store for us that we are unaware of and many blessings to come our way that are just for us, but to get to those blessings in some cases we have to go through some things. God does things in our lives to prepare us for the bright future that he has for each and every single one of us. What is for you is for you and what is for me is for me.
So today I found out my ex is expecting a child. I must say that is not something you want to here from your ex. My emotions and feelings about it were numb. I didn't know how to feel when I heard it. I couldn't feel excited, I couldn't feel upset. I couldn't laugh or cry. I really didn't know how to feel. Kinda like when your mouth is numb and you dont know that you are slobbing. That's kind of how I felt.
The message I am trying to get across here is sometimes break-ups and people leave your life for a reason. Honestly I'm glad it wasn't me because it easily could have been me. God is working wonders in our lives and we never seem to realize it, so the next time something happens in your life and you are feeling so much pain and hatred about a situation think of it as a blessing in disguise. The person that hurts you will get what they deserve, and you will get what you deserve. Start looking at everything as a blessing in disguise.
Sunday, January 10, 2010
Saturday, January 2, 2010
Communication is the Key
Sometimes when we meet someone that sparks our interest, the last thing we want to do is hurt them. We want to keep them around and find out all there is to know about them. Then when an issue pops up and they are able to talk to us about things we push away or halfway answer questions. Well, that is not a good way to keep someone in your life. It may work in some cases, but eventually all will fall apart and old things will come up and the entire situation can blow up and turn into something it was never supposed to be.
This brings up the issue of communication. Many people are single because of their issues with communication, not because they are looking for Mr./Miss Right. In their past relationships things may pop up with their "boo" and they would probably hold it in or bring it up at another time when something else they don't like pops up. Well the best thing to do is nip it in the bud right then and there...unless you're angry. If you are angry your best bet is to clear your mind, cool off, get your thoughts together and at least attempt to see it through the other person's point of view, then talk to them about it. Another thing that some people do is they avoid the issue and just end the relationship. My opinion about this is that if its that easy to drop them then chances are you probably weren't that into them. But if deep down inside you really want to be with them I feel you should try to work things out. Tell them how you feel. Use "I feel..." sentences and don't blame.
I am a twitter addict and I follow this person who calls himself @TonyGaskins. He said,
"If God hasn't sent you a Husband,it's because you aren't as ready as you think you are. When the Bride is ready the Groom will appear"
Well if your problem is communication, how can you expect to meet someone who will actually stay around, or that you will actually stay with until you learn to communicate. I'm just saying this because that's how I see it. If you feel differently then feel free to voice your opinion. Many of the people I have talked to have said many times that if you don't have communication your relationship will not last long. So if you avoid because you are afraid be like Ms. Frizzle on the Magic School Bus, "Take Chances, and Make Mistakes". It didn't make sense when I was younger but it definitely does now. You take a chance on love, you make mistakes with love, and that's when you learn how to handle love.
This brings up the issue of communication. Many people are single because of their issues with communication, not because they are looking for Mr./Miss Right. In their past relationships things may pop up with their "boo" and they would probably hold it in or bring it up at another time when something else they don't like pops up. Well the best thing to do is nip it in the bud right then and there...unless you're angry. If you are angry your best bet is to clear your mind, cool off, get your thoughts together and at least attempt to see it through the other person's point of view, then talk to them about it. Another thing that some people do is they avoid the issue and just end the relationship. My opinion about this is that if its that easy to drop them then chances are you probably weren't that into them. But if deep down inside you really want to be with them I feel you should try to work things out. Tell them how you feel. Use "I feel..." sentences and don't blame.
I am a twitter addict and I follow this person who calls himself @TonyGaskins. He said,
"If God hasn't sent you a Husband,it's because you aren't as ready as you think you are. When the Bride is ready the Groom will appear"
Well if your problem is communication, how can you expect to meet someone who will actually stay around, or that you will actually stay with until you learn to communicate. I'm just saying this because that's how I see it. If you feel differently then feel free to voice your opinion. Many of the people I have talked to have said many times that if you don't have communication your relationship will not last long. So if you avoid because you are afraid be like Ms. Frizzle on the Magic School Bus, "Take Chances, and Make Mistakes". It didn't make sense when I was younger but it definitely does now. You take a chance on love, you make mistakes with love, and that's when you learn how to handle love.
Let the Games Begin
Ok, so people are always talking about the "game of love". When you really think about it, that is life in general, but I'm going to stay on topic. With love the person that brings their "A" game wins the prize. The prize is your heart. The question is how hard are you going to make people work for it? Yeah, pretty hard if you want that real love. You don't want to make yourself too easy and too available. Once you get out of grade school, the competition gets fierce. People will cheat and do all types of dirty trickery things to try to "win" you. It's when you let them when you realize that they are actually hurting you and making the game a whole lot tougher for others.
I feel that I need to expand on this "A" game. When it comes to sports and video games people with a true love for it will put their best into it and that's what you need to do to win a heart. Not only once you get the person's attention but you also need to keep playing your cards right, or running the right plays to keep them. One wrong move and you lose, someone else is running off with your trophy. Some people have been playing longer than others and some people have been cheated and robbed from, so they may know how to play better than you. Only the strong survive in this game. Its survival of the fittest, smartest, and bravest. If you don't fall into any of those, then boy do I feel for you.
Go out and meet people while you are single. See how people are acting. Look at their reactions to what you do and how you live your life. See what pet peeves you discover about yourself that you may not have known that you had. You have to go through some things to know what you will put up with and deal with. Don't rush into anything and I promise you will find exactly what it is that you are looking for. I know everyone isn't all religious and stuff but some people do believe that God created someone for them. Men are running around trying to find their rib and Women are SUPPOSED to be out in the open waiting to be found. God may not come when you want him but he will be there on time. This can apply to finding the right person because you need to be patient. Your time will come when you are ready. Rushing will only cause problems. Like I said before, Love is game, play smart. If love was chess you wouldn't just move across the board like "O its doesn't matter what I do, I'm going to win". You need to protect your heart the way you protect your king. I mean confidence is one thing but please don't be full of yourself. Be patient. Play your cards right and Let the games begin.
I feel that I need to expand on this "A" game. When it comes to sports and video games people with a true love for it will put their best into it and that's what you need to do to win a heart. Not only once you get the person's attention but you also need to keep playing your cards right, or running the right plays to keep them. One wrong move and you lose, someone else is running off with your trophy. Some people have been playing longer than others and some people have been cheated and robbed from, so they may know how to play better than you. Only the strong survive in this game. Its survival of the fittest, smartest, and bravest. If you don't fall into any of those, then boy do I feel for you.
Go out and meet people while you are single. See how people are acting. Look at their reactions to what you do and how you live your life. See what pet peeves you discover about yourself that you may not have known that you had. You have to go through some things to know what you will put up with and deal with. Don't rush into anything and I promise you will find exactly what it is that you are looking for. I know everyone isn't all religious and stuff but some people do believe that God created someone for them. Men are running around trying to find their rib and Women are SUPPOSED to be out in the open waiting to be found. God may not come when you want him but he will be there on time. This can apply to finding the right person because you need to be patient. Your time will come when you are ready. Rushing will only cause problems. Like I said before, Love is game, play smart. If love was chess you wouldn't just move across the board like "O its doesn't matter what I do, I'm going to win". You need to protect your heart the way you protect your king. I mean confidence is one thing but please don't be full of yourself. Be patient. Play your cards right and Let the games begin.
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