The Other Woman isn't ALWAYS trying to ruin your life

So I have been in a relationship for what I thought was a long time. I must say I feel like I been through the home of the devil and back. I was cheated on and it was hidden so well. You would think that if someone loved you they would think twice before sleeping with someone else...guess again. If that boy is bored with you he is gonna see something that makes him curious and you best believe that he is going to run and go for it. No, he is not going to think twice.
Let me drop some knowledge on you. If you are the main squeeze, he is going to do what he wants and make sure that you know that you are the one he is coming home too. But you aren't the one that he is creeping with. He may let you know something about the other woman, but he isn't going to come out and say anything about what REALLY happened behind closed doors. He is going to tell you what he can to try to keep you. But this is the part where most women get stupid.
The other woman may call you, or she may send you an email or the way technology is message you on the internet and she will tell you everything that happened. Why? Not because she cares about you and your feelings but because your man kicked her to the curb. She will reveal all these truths that he hides because she knows it will ruin his life. She not worried about whether or not it ruins yours. So we as women find out the truth and we stay in the mindset that this trick isn't telling the truth, she is lying. There is no way that this is true at all, my man wouldn't do that. Best believe, you cannot put anything past a man. Men are capable of doing anything. The only difference between our creeping and theirs...the other man isn't gonna tell your man a thing because you have rubbed his ego by giving yourself to him.
So the next time you are in a relationship and the other woman goes through all that trouble to try to tell you something...think about the things that your man does that get on your nerves and be realistic. If in your mind he is capable of doing it but you don't wanna believe it...your best bet is he probably is doing it, doing it, and doing it well.

Loving You but Not loving me

Sometimes people get so caught up in wanting to be in love. They love the wrong person, and they put up with so many things that they would criticize their friends for. I can say that I have been in that situation. I loved, loved, and loved. Not once can I say that I really truly feel like I loved myself. I actually believe that I lost my self. I was so focused on pleasing that person that I didn't want to leave that I didn't think about what it was I wanted other than them. I didn't think about what things I should do to keep myself while I was with them. I focused so much on being liked by someone else that I didn't even think about liking myself. I changed my entire style, changed my attitude and felt dumb as a box of rocks when everything I did and all the love I believed was there was thrown out the window like a bomb gets thrown out of an airplane onto a third world country.
I have realized that you shouldn't change yourself to try to please someone else. All that is going to do is cause you to have a conflict between the person you are trying to be and the person you really are. Love yourself. Cherish who you are and find someone that can accept you for who you are and what you do. If they cant appreciate that then you do not need them.
I loved someone more than I loved myself. It was so obvious because of all the things I put up with. Everything that should have had me walking out the door, I continued to deal with and stay. I would think eventually it would get better. Here is a tip: DONT LIE TO YOURSELF!!! You can keep saying things are going to get better, but what you should know is no one is going to make all those changes that you made for you. Be yourself and love yourself. If you can't be you who will. Don't punish the next person because you chose to be a complete idiot. Tell the next guy/girl "Love me for me and I just might be able to give you a chance and love you.".