Sometimes people get so caught up in wanting to be in love. They love the wrong person, and they put up with so many things that they would criticize their friends for. I can say that I have been in that situation. I loved, loved, and loved. Not once can I say that I really truly feel like I loved myself. I actually believe that I lost my self. I was so focused on pleasing that person that I didn't want to leave that I didn't think about what it was I wanted other than them. I didn't think about what things I should do to keep myself while I was with them. I focused so much on being liked by someone else that I didn't even think about liking myself. I changed my entire style, changed my attitude and felt dumb as a box of rocks when everything I did and all the love I believed was there was thrown out the window like a bomb gets thrown out of an airplane onto a third world country.
I have realized that you shouldn't change yourself to try to please someone else. All that is going to do is cause you to have a conflict between the person you are trying to be and the person you really are. Love yourself. Cherish who you are and find someone that can accept you for who you are and what you do. If they cant appreciate that then you do not need them.
I loved someone more than I loved myself. It was so obvious because of all the things I put up with. Everything that should have had me walking out the door, I continued to deal with and stay. I would think eventually it would get better. Here is a tip: DONT LIE TO YOURSELF!!! You can keep saying things are going to get better, but what you should know is no one is going to make all those changes that you made for you. Be yourself and love yourself. If you can't be you who will. Don't punish the next person because you chose to be a complete idiot. Tell the next guy/girl "Love me for me and I just might be able to give you a chance and love you.".
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I use to want to be in a relationship so bad. I would date guys that didn't really want to be in relationship at least not completely. I realize everything you said after a few bumps in the road. To add on to what you said because it's important to love yourself but also with that comes fighting for what you want. Don't be that type of person who'll just take whatever. If you want a relationship completely then let that be know.
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